How to Find Your “Self” and Become a Super Human!

How to Find Your “Self” and Become a Super Human!.

How to Find Your “Self” and Become a Super Human!

I see so many people who are just living and making decisions, and they never know why they do anything. This is likely the result of social programming. The good thing about social programming, is that once you’re programmed you can just live without thinking much; however, social programming can be very, very destructive. When you don’t live consciously, you can make a lot of problems for yourself and others. Living unconsciously is divisive and doesn’t unite you with the spirit of your true nature. Here’s my next challenge for you:

Sit in a quiet place, and close your eyes. Once your eyes are closed, pay attention to your thoughts and emotions. If you’re angry that you’re sister is gossiping and spreading lies about you, realize that your anger is just a layer of emotion on top of you. Let it go. If you’re stressed that your desk is piled with work festering like an infected zit, realize that stress and stressors are layers on top of you and that you exist beyond that stress. Let it go. Offer it up. If your back is killing you from sitting in a chair all day, realize that your body feels pain, but your true self exists beyond your body and the pain. Let that pain go. Give it up and find yourself beyond the pain. Watch your breath until you realize that you are not your breath. Let that go too.

If you do this exercise with every thought, emotion, or sensation, eventually you’ll be left with just you in a pure – the purest – state of being.

Sit there for about 20 minutes, and just feel that. If you feel more thoughts, just let them go. Don’t judge them. Don’t focus on them. Just watch them like, “Hey, oh there’s a thought. Ok. Bye thought!”

Now. There. That is what we call the Self. It’s not your ego, it’s not your thoughts or emotions or problems or sensations. It’s just you. The big you. The real you. The whole you. This is the you that is connected with all the other yous in the world: your bitchy sister, your boss that piles on the work, and everyone else. Without the ego, you won’t find things so stressful either. You’ll recognize that the spirit of your true self is the same spirit that runs through every other thing.

Do this every day and you’ll be a super human!

Face your Shit.

Ok. This is going to be a tough subject, but it’s important. While I like to blog about things like compassion, love, forgiveness and understanding, we can’t really get into those things until we do something really important: FACE OUR OWN SHIT.

Sorry for the vulgarity, but it’s really the only way to describe my next challenge for all of you.  So here’s the deal:

You are not right. You are not wrong. You just are. The same goes for everyone in the world. What they do is not right or wrong. It just is. The sooner that you understand this, the better. Stop beating up on other people because you don’t agree with how they live. If you find yourself judging others, ask yourself, “Why am I judging this person?” If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll quickly learn that the answer to that question is usually simple.

Here are the most likely answers:

1. Because my parents/family/society programmed me to think something is undesirable, or
2. Because I might have these tendencies for which I feel shame because of #1.

When I was 17, I experienced an awakening of sorts. Some might call this rebellion, but I call it breaking free of the sickness of the programming from my childhood. Throughout my life, I had been judging people harshly for the pettiest of things they couldn’t control. As a child, I was taught how to be racist, who was better than whom in society, and I knew exactly where I fell in what I believed was the caste system of our little town. As a kid, I didn’t realize that the whole program was nothing but an illusion based on fears and insecurities and lies – creating disordered and dysfunctional thinking. All of that was put on me. As a teenager, I started questioning these voices in my head, forging my own path, making my own decisions, and practicing the psychology of talking back to the negativity. This allowed me to take back myself and free my mind from its prison.

Your brain is not like a rock – it’s a river. You CAN reprogram it. You CAN, through daily practice, learn to recognize negative, hateful, and judgmental thinking. You CAN talk back to those negative thoughts and replace them with positivity, love, and compassion.

But first, you have to face it. That’s the hardest part of it all.

Facing your own garbage and skeletons is really tough stuff. This will create all kinds of stress and anxiety for you. You can become an emotional rollercoaster as you process these emotions. It will hurt. You will feel terrible. But I promise, if you do this, you’ll come out on top.

So here’s my challenge for you. This week, as you try to live more presently, try to be aware of your negative thinking. Whether it’s body shaming, or slut shaming, or racism, or sexism, or whatever – when you see it, make sure you acknowledge it. Once you’ve acknowledged your thoughts, ask yourself why you think that way. If you find yourself pointing the finger at someone else, point it back at yourself. Listen for the genesis of that voice in your head, and kill it.

Here’s how you can kill that negativity:

1. I personally love Transcendental Meditation, but use whatever kinds of techniques work best for you. Meditation will literally unwind that stress and release it from your body.
2. Talk to someone you trust about your feelings. Don’t be afraid of getting emotional, and if you don’t have someone in your life, find a therapist. Therapists exist for a reason, and if you find yourself in a dark place, they have lots of tools to get you moving in the right direction.
3. While the negative thoughts are in your head, listen to music and dance. Let go of the negativity, feel the energy of the music and let it all go.
4. Go for a run/do an insane amount of burpees or pushups/jumping jacks. This increases endorphins – feel good chemicals in the brain.
5. Use positive affirmations to talk back to those negative voices. For instance, if you look at your body and you hate your body, remind yourself that your body works so hard so that you can have life. Spend 5-20 minutes looking into a mirror and find everything you love about yourself. If you can’t find anything, try harder. Remember, this is practice.
6. If you’re a religious person – pray. Prayer is very therapeutic. Asking your deity for help loving or being more compassionate is a GREAT technique.

Each one of us is a work in progress. I promise if you accept this challenge that it will help you evolve into a better version of yourself.

Who doesn’t like that?

Good luck.

Corporate Slavery

A couple of weeks ago, I met a woman who worked as a historian for the Smithsonian museum while riding a train home from work. While I normally mind my own business on the train, sometimes I meet people as equally extraverted as I am that we get into really great spirited conversations. She was one of those people, and this was one of those conversations.

She commented on it “really being one of those days,” and I agreed with her. She told me a story about how hard it is for employees of the Smithsonian because the need for perfection is so high. This need for perfection resulted in employees having to work unreasonable hours in order to get the work done just right. Her message was one that I knew was more than just a casual chat. She was talking about something much more profound – she labeled it “corporate slavery.”

I was familiar with this concept, but never really contemplated it or realized its impact on my own life. Suddenly, things came into clear view. I remember being pregnant with my third child and giving birth prematurely while I was studying business in college plus putting in 60+ hour work weeks. I was so extremely stressed out, but I couldn’t possibly come home and relax after a long day at the office because the amount of work needing to be done surpassed what I could do. Nights turned into weekends and weekends turned into non-stop work. I was a slave to my corporation. The guilt and shame of having loads of outstanding work needing to be completed fell on the shoulders of my Catholic upbringing and sense of obligation – feel guilty for problems I didn’t cause and requiring me to sacrifice myself for the greater good. …yeah, some CEO’s fat paycheck and bonus…

Having a near death experience during an emergency delivery should have woken me up to the reality of what was happening, but it didn’t. I was too stubborn to see it. I risked my own life and the life of my child for the sake of a corporation’s greed. Instead of hiring adequate staff to handle the surge of work, management didn’t staff the department properly, and the employees were going full tilt for over a year without a real break.

Now that I’ve become aware that I was a victim of, and awake to the reality of corporate slavery, I’ll never allow myself to get sucked in again. When I go to work, I put in my all and give everything I have. Even when I get home, I’ll check my work emails to make sure nothing is blowing up. However, my leisure time belongs to me. I don’t live my life for my company, I live my life for myself, and so should you.

We have one life to live, and one chance to make an impact. Don’t give it to some CEO to get an extra bonus. It’s YOUR life. Live YOUR life. Love YOUR life.

If you’re going to slave for a company, make it your own company; and let the work be so enjoyable that you feel nothing but bliss while you’re putting in long hours.

Meditate on this.

I’m not a “teacher.” I’m a “reminder.”

I’m not a “teacher.” I’m a “reminder.”.

I’m not a “teacher.” I’m a “reminder.”

Starting a blog about being a guru and using that to describe me is probably a bit misleading. I’m not an expert, and I won’t teach you anything, even though it may seem like I am. But let’s get serious – does a guru really teach you something you don’t already know?

Gurus are generally considered teachers. They’re sages who have amassed great knowledge and wisdom because of their age, their experiences, and their 20 hour days of mediation and long-term fasting. What most people don’t know is that you know just as much as the gurus do. All of that knowledge and wisdom is within you. All of it.

…and that’s where I come in. I’m not going to teach you, but I am going to remind you.

At the moment you were born, you knew exactly how to be. You knew how to grow your hair, blink your eyes, beat your heart, and circulate your blood. You knew how to breathe, suckle, and poop. Just because you’re older now and the world seems so much more complex doesn’t mean it really is. Things are just more complex because you don’t live in the present. Your brain has taken control of your decision making, so instead of just “being” and living presently, you’re constantly thinking about the past and the future. …and we know that living in the past makes us depressed and full of regrets, and living in the future makes us anxious and worried about everything we need to do tomorrow.

So let me help you by reminding you to live presently. Be who you were when you were born. Don’t live in the past or the future. Try to keep yourself grounded in this moment.

I challenge you to spend the next 5 minutes of your day just being aware of now. Sit quietly with your eyes closed. Watch your thoughts bubble up and drift off. Don’t let them grip you – know that they aren’t you.

See how that feels…

Hello world!

Hi! I’m Jessie, and I’m your Guru Girl. I’m starting this blog and company because I care deeply about you. I want you to live fully, presently, and with passion. I want to take you back to your roots and help you understand the true nature of who you are – the Self.

At your service and with all my love,

The Guru Girl